Biftu had a happy childhood growing up in a rural area where her family relied on farming. Soon after she got married, Biftu became pregnant and was excited to become a mother.
But Biftu experienced a harrowing labour, enduring two excruciating weeks at home before her family finally took her to a health centre. Staff there couldn’t provide the specialist care Biftu needed so they referred her to the local hospital where her baby was delivered by caesarean section.
Despite the doctors’ best efforts to save Biftu’s life, her baby was stillborn.
“I lost my baby. In addition to my grief, I faced a new challenge – urinary leakage. The shame and stigma surrounding my condition made everyday interactions feel unbearable, often leaving me in tears.” – Biftu
Fortunately, Biftu was transported to Hamlin’s Mekele Fistula Hospital where she was welcomed with love and compassion. She felt hopeful and found a sense of belonging and was relieved to see other women facing similar struggles. She realised she was not alone.
Biftu told us how incredibly supportive the hospital staff were, providing comfortable clothing, assisting with personal care and serving her delicious meals.
Due to the complexity of Biftu’s injuries, she underwent five surgeries before being completely cured.
Biftu took her time before trying to conceive again. She was anxious given her past painful labour, the loss of her baby, the trauma of obstetric fistula and the ostracism she faced from her community. When Biftu became pregnant once more, it “felt miraculous”.
“When I gave birth to a girl, I named her Hamlin in honour of the place where I received care and compassion. Dr. Melaku [the Medical Director and Biftu’s fistula surgeon] played a vital role in my recovery and I wanted to honour him by naming my daughter after the hospital.” – Biftu
Shortly after Hamlin’s birth, conflict erupted in the Tigray region. As a new mother still recovering from childbirth, Biftu felt vulnerable and worried for her health and that of her newborn baby.
Biftu had to flee her home and spent five days in the desert, desperately seeking safety and struggling to meet her and her baby’s basic needs. Yet the resilience Biftu had developed helped her cope and her community supported each other.
Hamlin is now five years old and Biftu is thrilled to be expecting “another miracle”. The training she received at Desta Mender, Hamlin’s rehabilitation and reintegration centre, has helped her achieve financial independence through buying three sheep. She intends to expand her herd.
“I want to take a moment to express my heartfelt gratitude to everyone who has supported me throughout my journey. Thank you for believing in me and being an essential part of my story. I am truly grateful for each and every one of you.” – Biftu
